What’s your New Year’s Resolution?
“September, school, fall and football season just kicked off and you are asking me what my New Year’s Resolution will be? Huh?”
Yep, that’s right I am.
Come December, the media will be all over the holiday season, and the beginning of 2019. After Christmas there will be a flurry of vows to lose weight, go to the gym more, stop doing something bad and replace it with something good, yadda, yadda, yadda. Everyone will be rushing around regretting the overeating they did during the holidays and making vows they will never keep while the ball drops on Time Square; promises they haven’t even given much thought to much less written down. I don’t want to see that happen to you.
That is why I am asking you now. Think about it.
There are four months left in 2018. Are you where you want to be? Or better yet, where you hoped you would be last December when you were in that same halfhearted, rote, promise-making frenzy?
If not, why aren’t you making plans, like right now, to make 2019 different?
Change is never particularly easy, or hey, we would all look like super models, drive sporty cars, have a perfect family, etc. But change can be simple, a few baby steps at a time.
Schedule the next four days of your life like this – get up earlier than everyone in your house and write three pages long hand (preferably on blank paper turned horizontally). Write about your dreams, where you want to be, who you want to be, who you want to spend your time (i.e. life) with, how you want to spend your time. Write anything that comes to mind – if your mind trails off to the grocery list, or the day’s chores that loom ahead, write them on a piece of scrap paper - and then go back to your dreams.
Write down everything you can think of – how it will feel when________, what will your average day look like, what will you eat, wear, drive, live in? Keep going until you have filled three pages. And then, let it brew.
This is not some hokey smokey, woo woo magic trick. This is clearing your mind of the things that stand between you and who you want to be.
Pour it out. Write it down. Give it life.
Then spend 10/15 minutes thinking about what that person (who is living this amazing life) would do with her days. How would she be living? Write down whatever comes to mind.
Don’t edit, don’t fret, don’t get anxious. Just. Write. It. Down.
There is magic to giving your dreams life. Especially in your own handwriting.
If you can’t manage to do this, or it just doesn’t appeal to you– recognize it. Own it. Accept the reality that at the present moment you just aren’t ready to be who you say you want to be.
There is magic in that too, believe it or not.
We can never, ever, (taking a riff from Taylor Swift- never, ever, ever)… reconcile what it takes to change our lives until we are ready to grasp this fact: if we really want to change this life we say makes us unhappy, we can.
But, we have to be all in, all the way, without an escape route in mind.
What does it take for you to be all in? Are you willing to get up for four days straight, before everyone in your house and spend 45 minutes writing your new life?
Four days is pretty freaking easy to do.
If you can’t do that, you don’t really want what you say you want. Sorry, that might sting a bit to hear, but it is the truth.
I am working on a new digital course with 9 simple steps to creating, not just wishing for a true fairytale life. It will launch mid September.
I am announcing it to friends and family first and offering anyone who messages me and references this blog post a 15% discount.
Be one of the first, join me.
Be the person you say you want to be.